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The
Origin of our Serenity Prayer
As published in August/September 1992 BOX-459
For
many years, long after the Serenity Prayer became
attached to the very fabric of the Fellowship's life
and thought, its exact origin, its actual author,
have played a tantalizing game of hide and seek with
researchers, both in and out of A.A. The facts of
how it came to be used by A.A. a half century ago
are much easier to pinpoint.
Early
in 1942, writes Bill W., in A.A. Comes of Age, a New
York member, Jack, brought to everyone's attention a
caption in a routine New York Herald Tribune
obituary that read:
"God grant us the serenity to accept the things
we cannot change,
courage to change the things we can,
and wisdom to know the difference."
Everyone
in A.A.'s burgeoning office on Manhattan's Vesey
Street was struck by the power and wisdom contained
in the prayer's thoughts. "Never had we seen so much
A.A. in so few words," Bill writes. Someone
suggested that the prayer be printed on a small,
wallet-sized card, to be included in every piece of
outgoing mail. Ruth Hock, the Fellowship's first
(and nonalcoholic) secretary, contacted Henry S., a
Washington D.C. member, and a professional printer,
asking him what it would cost to order a bulk
printing.
Henry's
enthusiastic response was to print 500 copies of the
prayer, with the remark: "Incidentally, I am only a
heel when I'm drunk .. . so naturally, there could
be no charge for anything of this nature."
"With
amazing speed," writes Bill, "the Serenity Prayer
came into general use and took its place alongside
our two other favorites, the Lord's Prayer and the
Prayer of St. Francis.
Thus
did the "accidental" noticing of an unattributed
prayer, printed alongside a simple obituary of an
unknown individual, open the way toward the prayer's
daily use by thousands upon thousands of A.A.s
worldwide.
But
despite years of research by numerous individuals,
the exact origin of the prayer is shrouded in
overlays of history, even mystery. Moreover, every
time a researcher appears to uncover the definitive
source, another one crops up to refute the former's
claim, at the same time that it raises new,
intriguing facts. What is undisputed is the claim of
authorship by the theologian Dr. Rheinhold Niebuhr,
who recounted to interviewers on several occasions
that he had written the prayer as a "tag line" to a
sermon he had delivered on Practical Christianity.
Yet even Dr. Niebuhr added at least a touch of doubt
to his claim, when he told one interviewer, "Of
course, it may have been spooking around for years,
even centuries, but I don't think so. I honestly do
believe that I wrote it myself."
Early
in World War II, with Dr. Niebuhr's permission, the
prayer was printed on cards and distributed to the
troops by the U.S.O. By then it had also been
reprinted by the National Council of Churches, as
well as Alcoholics Anonymous.
Dr.
Niebuhr was quite accurate in suggesting that the
prayer may have been "spooking around" for
centuries. "No one can tell for sure who first wrote
the Serenity Prayer," writes Bill in A.A. Comes of
Age. "Some say it came from the early Greeks; others
think it was from the pen of an anonymous English
poet; still others claim it was written by an
American Naval officer... ." Other attributions have
gone as far afield as ancient Sanskrit texts,
Aristotle, St. Augustine, St. Thomas Aquinas and
Spinoza. One A.A. member came across the Roman
philosopher Cicero's Six Mistakes of Man, one of
which reads: "The tendency to worry about things
that cannot be changed or corrected."
No
one has actually found the prayer's text among the
writings of these alleged, original sources. What
are probably truly ancient, as with the above quote
from Cicero, are the prayer's themes of acceptance,
courage to change what can be changed and the free
letting go of what is out of one's ability to
change.
 The
search for pinpointing origins of the prayer has
been like the peeling of an onion. For example, in
July 1964, the A.A. Grapevine received a clipping of
an article that had appeared in the Paris Herald
Tribune, by the paper's correspondent in Koblenz,
then in West Germany. "In a rather dreary hall of a
converted hotel, overlooking the Rhine at Koblenz,"
the correspondent wrote, is a tablet inscribed with
the following words:
"God give me the detachment to accept those
things I cannot titleer;
the courage to titleer those things I can titleer;
and the wisdom to distinguish the one thing from the
other."
These
words were attributed, the correspondent wrote, to
an 18th century pietist, Friedrich Oetinger
(1702-1782). Moreover, the plaque was affixed to a
wall in a hall where modern day troops and company
commanders of the new German army were trained "in
the principles of management and . . . behavior of
the soldier citizen in a democratic state."
Here,
at last, thought A.A. researchers, was concrete
evidence-quote, author, date-of the Serenity
Prayer's original source. That conviction went
unchallenged for fifteen years. Then in 1979 came
material, shared with G.S.O.'s Beth K., by Peter T.,
of Berlin. Peter's research threw the authenticity
of 18th century authorship out the window. But it
also added more tantalizing facts about the plaque's
origin.
"The
first form of the prayer," Beth wrote back,
originated with Boethius, the Roman philosopher
(480-524 A.D.), and author of the book, Consolations
of Philosophy. The prayer's thoughts were used from
then on by "religious-like people who had to suffer
first by the English, later the Prussian puritans .
. . then the Pietists from southwest Germany . . .
then A.A.s . . . and through them, the West Germans
after the Second World War."
Moreover,
Beth continued, after the war, a north German
University professor, Dr. Theodor Wilhelm, who had
started a revival of spiritual life in West Germany,
had acquired the "little prayer" from Canadian
soldiers. He had written a book in which he had
included the prayer, without attribution, but which
resulted in the prayer's appearance in many
different places, such as army officer's halls,
schools and other institutions. The professor's nom
de plume? Friedrich Oetinger, the 18th century
pietist! Wilhelm had apparently selected the
pseudonym Oetinger out of admiration of his south
German forebears.
Back
in 1957, another G.S.O. staff member, Anita R.,
browsing in a New York bookstore, came upon a
beautifully bordered card, on which was printed:
"Almighty God, our Heavenly Father,
give us Serenity to accept what cannot be changed,
Courage to change what should be changed,
and Wisdom to know the one from the other;
through Jesus Christ, our Lord."
The
card, which came from a bookshop in England, called
it the "General's Prayer," dating it back to the
fourteenth century! There are still other claims,
and no doubt more unearthing will continue for years
to come. In any event, Mrs. Reinhold Niebuhr told an
interviewer that her husband was definitely the
prayer's author, that she had seen the piece of
paper on which he had written it, and that her
husband-now that there were numerous variations of
wording -"used and preferred" the following form:
"God, give us grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things which should be changed,
and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other."
While
all of these searching are intriguing, challenging,
even mysterious, they pale in significance when
compared to the fact that, for fifty years, the
prayer has become so deeply imbedded into the heart
and soul of A.A. thinking, living, as well as its
philosophy, that one could almost believe that the
prayer originated in the A.A. experience itself.
Bill
made this very point years ago, in thanking an A.A.
friend for the plaque upon which the prayer was
inscribed: "In creating A.A., the Serenity Prayer
has been a most valuable building block-indeed a
corner-stone."
And
speaking of cornerstones, and mysteries and
"coincidences"-the building where G.S.O. is now
located borders on a stretch of New York City's
120th St., between Riverside Drive and Broadway
(where the Union Theological Seminary is situated).
It's called Reinhold Niebuhr Place.
(end of article)
(A long version of the Prayer)
God grant me the
SERENITY to
accept the things I cannot change;
COURAGE to change the things I can;
and WISDOM to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it:
Trusting that He will make all things
right if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him forever in the
next. Amen
(Another long version of the Prayer from
Ireland)
God take and
receive my liberty,
my memory, my understanding and will,
All that I am and have He has given me
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference
Living one day at a time
Enjoying one moment at a time
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to his will
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy in the next. AMEN
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(thanks to Noel D. from Ireland for the long version)
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